Respect dare series – day 27 – Expectations

Proverbs 19:21

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

Expectations. Yep, they are huge in our relationship. Entering marriage, I discovered a lot of expectations that had developed unbeknown to me through the years. Unfortunately a lot of them were idealistic, not practical.

When our expectations aren’t met, we have the option to react emotionally, or pause, evaluate, and then talk through them rationally. I’m learning to do this, but it’s a slow process. More often than not my response is still: react emotionally, have time away to evaluate, sheepishly apologise, and then talk through them rationally. Thankfully I have a patient husband 😉

(Note: I definitely don’t believe that all expectations in marriage are wrong – I’m dealing with the idealistic ones here).

My action for today: talk with Glenn asking him to gently help me in this process by highlighting to me when he feels I am reacting based on an unmet expectation. Let him know this is an area I know I am weak and that his help is. welcome and valued. Also read this article.

My prayer for today: Loving Father, root out the unhelpful expectations I have for my marriage, especially when they aren’t godly. In Jesus name, Amen

I love sharing communion. It helps me lay down my expectations, especially the selfish one, to commune together with our Rock.

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