Respect blog series – day 4 – Confidant

Proverbs 31:10-11

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 

What a privilege to be the keeper of our husband’s confidences. Few things make my heart gladder than sitting on the couch with Glenn, listening to his deepest thoughts, treasured ideas, and confidences. It brings closeness and intimacy into our relationship. But it also requires risk. And there are only so many times he will open up to me if the result is judgement, disdain, belittling, criticism or other negative response.

I have to train myself to treasure these moments. Even if I think a dream is far-fetched or improbable, it builds love and trust to be the encouraging voice. Wisdom can be shared in love, caution can be shared alongside enthusiasm; perspective can be brought in down the line. My first job is to be a safe place for confidences, and a championing voice to ideas.

My heart is learning to treasure every small moment of openness between Glenn and I.

My action for today: Be still and listen. Wait for Glenn to speak. Being at home far more than Glenn, thanks to our little one, means that I’m often the one eager to share and chat. Today I choose to wait. To pause. To keep quiet. I wait upon Glenn’s confidences – small or big, seemingly insignificant, or deeply intimate; it doesn’t matter, they all build intimacy and trust.

My prayer for today: Let me be a trustworthy and safe confidant for Glenn. Lord, I desire to hold him up. I desire to be a wife who can be trusted by my husband’s heart. Let me be gain for my husband, always. Help me to keep quiet at times so that he can speak. Let me treasure each moment of intimacy, and each moment of passing fellowship. In Jesus’ name, Amen.  

Building his safe place

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