Family Sphere

Spend a minute reflecting on what families look like today. Think also about your family and how you were raised. We have blended families, individual family units, traditional family structure, single parenting, same sex marriages, adoption, abuse within the family, geographical separation, nannies, missing generations (from AIDS), and so forth. There is great variety, making it to define what “family” looks like.

So what model should we chose for our own family? What should a godly family look like?

These questions are of vital importance because family is foundational in establishing our world views. By 4 years of age, family has already shaped how we see the world and how we judge society. Parents and the home environment will have given us a definition of how to define our lives. Either God will define our lives, or something else will.

How do we discover God’s heart for family? How do we create a godly environment for our children? How do we honour our parents? How should a husband and wife relate?

To answer these questions, we need to go to Scripture!

Let’s look at one Scripture together and what it tells us of family:

Gen 1:27-28

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Q: What is God establishing for family in these verses?

  • Fruitfulness
    • Children are to be desired
    • They are to be looked upon as a blessing
  • Multiplication
    • Doesn’t have to be physically; for example:
      • Caring for orphans
      • Discipleship of younger believers
  • Male and female
    • No distinction in value between male and female children
    • Man and woman make parents – not same sex
  • Dominion and authority
    • Responsibility for the world around

Here are some things to look at when considering what Scripture has to say about the family:

  • Marriage
  • Wives and husbands
  • Family roles
  • Parenting
  • Children – sons and daughter
  • In-laws
  • Conflict
  • Sexual conduct
  • Principles and ethics of relationship
  • Inheritance laws
  • Family finance
  • Family justice
  • Education
  • Widows
  • Orphans

The purpose of family is to provide the safe nurturing environment for growth, values and development of the next generation. It is the smallest building block of human society. It is important that we seek God’s heart for this sphere and what it should look like.

Some Scriptures to consider (these are in no way exhaustive!):

  • Exodus 12:24-30; 13:8-16;
  • Leviticus 18
  • Deuteronomy 4:9-14; 6:1-9; 11:19-21; 21:15-21
  • Titus 2:1-10
  • Ephesians 5:22-6:9


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